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kaportka's avatar

I’m curious — have you ever stepped back from a relationship and been surprised by the response? Did they step forward… or fade?

Dr. Pasquale Foglia's avatar

Immancabilmente si sono fatti avanti!

Dr. Pasquale Foglia's avatar

"Il tuo valore traspare da ciò che manca quando non ci sei . E a volte, far sentire agli altri quel vuoto è l'unico modo per fargli capire quanto sei speciale".

Maddy's avatar

“Whatever you treat as an experience, you win”

This is such a life changing perspective and something I have been trying to embody lately.

Thank you for this article, I loved reading it.

I have done this lately. Moving overseas helped to clarify who is there and who isn’t when I step back. I’ve been delightfully surprised in many instances. I’ve also noticed how much I miss others when they don’t have time too. I have filled that space too. How nice it is to allow yourself to be chosen. On the other hand I have also had some friendships fall away. And you’re right, we experience and we win regardless. Even with a bit of grief.

kaportka's avatar

I really appreciate you sharing this. Distance often reveals the true shape of our relationships in ways we cannot see when we are immersed in them. I love that you mentioned allowing yourself to be chosen, it is such an important part of the process. And yes, sometimes the “win” includes a bit of grief, but even that means something real was there.